Ehh.. Who cares what they think?
It’s typically true that we shouldn’t care what others think of us. But how far does that mantra really go?..
I believe that we should care what others think when it comes to defining the essence of our character. After all, our character defines who we are. In other words, I believe that our manner of being, reactions, and even what we wear and our appearance should be Jesus-approved not so much as “people-approved.”
So go ahead and say, “Who cares what people think of me?! They don’t know me.” Amen! I’m right there with you! But does our behavior and choice of appearance align with the person God has called us to be.
Will Jesus approve of how someone rudely speaks to a waitress who forgot to bring rolls to the table? Are we calling ourselves Christians and yet are doing and saying things that aren’t filled with love and positivity?
Speaking From Experience
I’m not perfect; I once had issues with anger. I would easily become upset with some things someone (mainly my immediate family members) said or did, and I disagreed with it. Even now, it’s hard for me to come up with a particular example to share with you because it’s so far in the past I can’t remember.
My point is, my anger didn’t match with the kind-hearted person I truly was. It was like a virus using my God-given character as a host. If I hadn’t taken heed to my family calling me mean – even my husband – and actually tried seeing their points of view, I wouldn’t have been able to notice my errors and be willing to do something about it.
I began reading devotionals and scriptures on anger and began praying on the matter. You know what happened? God healed me of that affliction! Praise His name! Won’t He do it?! *praise break*
Anger was holding me back from being my true self. Anger was hindering my relationship with my family. My affliction made me believe that everything everyone said was against me. But God!!!
Now, I no longer dwell on how I could be so kind towards others, strangers even, but at times be mean towards my own family – the people who will always love me and stand up for me know matter what.
What about you?
Is there an area of your life that is effecting your character that could use some tweaking? (Scoop deeply. Don’t be shy.)
Is there something you’re doing or saying that you know or feel in your heart that your Holy Father and His Son would not approve?
Maybe you’re like me and battle with some anger issues..
..struggle with jealousy.
The list can go on forever. We all fall short in some area of our lives. We are not perfect! However, some of those areas, those afflictions, can really hinder our true character and even our blessings. And you know what, the issue doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is what we plan to do about it. What serious steps can we take to let God take care of the rest?
8 Ways to Break the Affliction
- Determine and confess the imperfection.
- Pray about it. Ask God to show you the error of your ways. And meditate on it.. When it occurs. Why it occurs. Who is/are the victim(s). Repent and learn from the affliction.
- Consider how your actions are affecting others around you. Imagine if you were the victim receiving the heat of the affliction. How would you feel?
- Ask someone you trust wholeheartedly, a kindred spirit, if they notice anything about your mannerism or ways that doesn’t align with who you are in Christ.
- Turn to the bible, find devotionals, and continue to read this blog (*side eyes*) for guidance on how to resolve personal issues.
- Read inspirational, self-help books on the situation and/or ones that aim to positively build one’s character.
- If or when we unleash the bad habit or affliction on someone, take notice, build up courage if needed, and apologize. Then, ask the victim(s) for forgiveness.
- Forgive yourself. This can be one of the most powerful things you do. When we forgive ourselves for the wrongs we’ve done and for the hurt we potentially caused others to feel, we will have conquered the enemy and won the battle! Everything will fall into place. The affliction is beaten!
I commend anyone who lives their own life, not caring what others think of them. However, at the expense of our character, I caution us to be mindful of our words, actions and reactions, facial expressions, attire, manners, etc. And if you are a believer, ensure these things are Jesus-approved so that no one has the opportunity to doubt for a second who we truly are.
So let’s talk!..
Was this blog post helpful? Can you apply it to an area of your life?
What would a step towards letting go of a possible problem area in your life look like for you?
Has anyone ever told you something about yourself that you didn’t know you were portraying?
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The Biblical Scoop!
“As water reflects the face, so one’s life reflects the heart.” – Proverbs 27:19
“The righteous person may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all” – Psalm 34:19