I wrote a post giving tips to avoid and refrain from gossip in the workplace,How To Avoid Workplace Gossip, and had originally included a part for individuals who occasionally partake in gossip. Well, the information I wanted to share really deserved its own spotlight, so I decided to split it.
To stay in line with the vibes of the original post, this post refers to being a new employee in a workplace, but is not limited to just the newbies. Anyone can take these tips to work with them! (SN: I made a –in my opinion– cute Cinderalla analogy in the original post so don’t be confused by the comment you’ll see below.)
So this post is for those who don’t mind taking part in a little gossip every now and then or for those who unintentionally find themselves in the midst of gossip. We’re human; it happens.
“Gossiping is my weakness.. HELP!”
I advise against workplace gossip by any means necessary, whether it’s by stating that you prefer not to gossip, simply changing the conversation, walking away with an excuse to work, OR maybe don’t say anything at all if possible. But sometimes it’s hard.
It can be especially difficult if a new coworker is giving you “tips” on how other people are in the office. Maybe you don’t want to make a “bad impression” and have them think you’re rude for telling them you want to “stay in your lane” or make them feel like you don’t care what they have to say. And hey, a heads up about what to expect seems prettyyy useful so ehh.. why not?
Well, I’m glad you asked! Let me tell you.
5 Tips for the socialites:
- Be True to your positive character. In my opinion, a bad impression would be gossiping in the first place. Why negate our character? We shouldn’t want to just hand people the opportunity to immediately think of us in a way that demotes who we are
- The old adage, ‘Be a leader not a follower.’ Who cares what one person has to say about others. We won’t even know the whole story of anything so how is the information relevant. Being a newbie, we won’t know if the individual talking to us is even trustworthy, so how can s/he be deemed as credible?
- Don’t get sucked in. You gossiped and now you’re in the mix. (What’s that smell? It’s the rotted “pumpkin carriage” CINDERELLA because you stayed at the ball past midnight!) You’ve allowed yourself to be warped in and now you’ve accepted being a part of potential negative energies in the office. How you first handle yourself determines how you will be in the workplace or how deep into the gossip you’d be willing to go. (You CAN get out though! See blog post How To Avoid Workplace Gossip.)
- You’re responsible for your words and actions. Employee gossip often finds its way back to management. If management has good work ethics then they will handle situations appropriately. This means they possibly know some things that have come out of your mouth, and they might have to do something about it. They will remember incidents and will end up discussing things with you personally or worse… firing you. Also, gossip about a coworker can get back to that specific individual and end up hurting them. And not only these things, but your reputation in the office could be diminished. I sure know I wouldn’t want to be thought of as one of the office gossips.
- You’ll need future references. So, you don’t want to start off or end on the wrong foot. Think about your future and the positive impact you want to make in the workplace. It’s simple logic. Just like you want others to mind their own business; you first must mind your own.
Now, I don’t know about you, but I’d rather remain on people’s (especially those in management) good graces. If we want to improve our character, it’s not too late to take a stand to better ourselves, even where we work.
So, let’s talk!..
How do you handle gossip in the workplace?
Have you had any bad experiences that were gossip related? How did it turn out?
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