Let’s just sit in that word for a few seconds… It is absolutely amazing! Challenging. Wonderful.
Motherhood brings out a new sense of accomplishment in you. It’s hard not to look at our children and think, “Wow, you’re mine.” And to say such a thing is so loaded when you think about it.
Thoughts I’m sure every mother has about her child/children:
- You came from me or were put on this earth for me.
- I would give anything to ensure your happiness.
- You can hurt my feelings a hundred times over and I will still love you indefinitely.
- I would stand up for you any day of the week.
- You will always be a part of me no matter what.
I could go on forever, but these are really some of the things that come to mind when I think of mothering my little Harper and soon-to-be baby boy.
So now that I’ve covered the mushiness of motherhood, let’s dive into the heart of this post.
Here are the 5 things I’ve learned since joining the wonderful world of motherhood in no particular order.
5 things I’ve learned since becoming a mom:
1. My children are my priority.
Now, this can be good or bad in a sense. I’ve come to realize my child is at the top of my priority list. Since I’ve had Harper, I’ve wanted to ensure that she is very well taken care of, from having everything she actually needs to giving her all the attention her little heart desires. This, unfortunately, leaves little time for me and my husband and next to that no time for myself. Most times I’m so drained, I have no time to keep up my household. Problem? Oh yes ma’am, definitely. I’m a work in progress.
2. Self-care is actually a must.
I heard it all too often before having Harper that self-care is important. At that time I would just think, I mean, of course, I’m still going to take care of myself and laugh it off, no big deal. Well… motherhood sure showed me. I actually cared less. Ha!
I started wearing less makeup. I would forget to shave. Good enough became a pass.
Even my car suffered. My car used to stay clean. Then I became a working mother and slowly I started leaving my work shoes on the passenger floorboard and told myself “It’s fine. It’s more convenient to just pick a pair and walk into work.” Reality? Not okay. What’s worse, I stopped doing my daily devotions. I stopped working on my blog. I stopped doing things that mattered to me.
It actually ended up hurting me. I questioned my life more and started becoming disappointed in myself and with parts of my life. Unhappiness with myself set in. So not good, but I realized it and have been making changes. I might do another post in time of the changes and the effects this had on my life.
3. Tomorrow is a crutch.
I cannot tell you how often I lean on tomorrow like it’s a best friend. When I first started putting things off until the next day, it wasn’t too bad. Then it became a habit, and my plans for “tomorrow” would be incomplete. So I learned that with all the new things in life, I was going to have to make more of an effort to complete them either that day or just not plan for it at all if I couldn’t be realistic with my time. It also spares me the aggravation of not meeting a goal. So, don’t plan for tomorrow if you know you won’t fully commit. 1) It may never come. 2) It can turn into a week or later from now. Yikes!
This also applies to when we plan on going somewhere. When you have a baby, I learned that it’s imperative to get things ready the night before, not “tomorrow” being the day of. In the beginning, we’d try and get the bottles, pack the diaper bag, pump her milk, and get her and ourselves ready, and maybe even have unfortunate circumstances arise, and it always took so so very long that we’d get frustrated and not even want to go anywhere. If only we had been less tired and/or lazy and had gotten things ready the night before. But, we learned!
4. Motivation takes effort.
Motivation. What happened to you? Where did you go? When I was “younger”, say early 20s, I could go to the gym or hammer out an at-home workout and feel so accomplished. I could make a plan toward my career and take action to ensure it was met. Now, I get discouraged thinking about even attempting to set goals.
I’ve learned that I can’t allow the things I have no control over, dictate what I can control. That I can’t allow the small, less relevant goals that I’m not meeting, keep me from making bigger goals that will ultimately sculpt my family’s future.
Back then, my future family was the highlight of my motivation. Not wanting to relive my past was a highlight. And now I have my family and the reality is, I’m so focused on providing for the now and being tired from that, doing things to enhance the future is taking a backseat. And that cannot happen!
So, I will have to find the mental capacity to be and stay motivated no matter what. It will take a lot of work and a lot of praying, but at the end of it all, my family is so worth it.
5. Always expect the unexpected, baby edition.
I can’t say that I expected anything in particular before Harper was born. Honestly, when people asked, “Are y’all ready.” We would answer, “Can you ever be?”
First off, I really looked forward to nursing Harper because of the bond we’d continue to share. I never considered the fact that she could be allergic to my breastmilk. In the beginning and even when she was several months old, Harper spit-up after feeding. Sometimes it was so bad it came out of her nose. When she was a super tiny thing and doing that I couldn’t help but cry because I felt like my baby was suffering. Turns out, I had to stop eating dairy, and she was better.
My little Harper was always the absolute sweetest baby. She was just quiet and observant, never really cried, and let others hold her and just be cool with it, just super sweet. Then one day when she was 7 to 8 months old, something flipped. Harper turned from sweet to sweet and sour. She began to hit, bite, or scratch and then would give you kisses after. She’s still sweet, but we thought the hitting was a phase but here she is 14 months old and still doing it sometimes. Mmm, maybe it’s just a looong phase…
Miss Harper is definitely strong-willed and full of personality, and I do love that about her!
In Love With Motherhood
So while motherhood has had me on cloud 9, especially during moments of cuddle and tickle sessions, I know I have more to learn to get over each challenge that we’ll go through.
I truly love being a mother! I believe I was made for this. So, Motherhood, whatever lessons you have for me, bring it girl! I’m ready!
So, let’s talk!…
Briefly tell us what motherhood means to you?
Are you a mother? If so, what advice could you provide to new mothers?
The Biblical Scoop!
I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth. – 3 John 1:4
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. – Proverbs 31:25
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. – Proverbs 22:6
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